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Jazmine Bell's avatar

Loved this so much. We have been working with ourselves like that for some time now and found the gentle communication is by far the best way. It is the most effective way to calm everyone quickly, resettle and keep communication open. Yelling at each other stopped working a long time ago. Also shaming Parts and ourselves also never really worked. This all helps builds trust within the system. Our life is still a mess but we have complete trust in our system learnt that that makes working together much easier. We don't have a host or an so called I, but whoever is fronting in those times knows we have each other's back. It keeps life calmer even when big things are happening meaning we are a victim in two historical abuse(worse word but being careful) and as hell as the last 5 years of the justice system is , we know we as a system will work together and be ok. Not so sure about life 🫣 but system stuff is ok. I love honest posts like this by the way.

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interstellar alliance's avatar

wow. this helped kind of clarify for us what a "protector" vs a "internal helper" is and why our protectors dont always behave "well" or "nicely"

thanks...very pertinent for us literally today.

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